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description: "Whether you're a man or a woman, when looking for a partner or making significant purchases, trading stocks, or investing, you must ask yourself three questions: First, what kind do I "want"? (You need clear criteria, not just go by feeling.)Second, what kind can my overall strength "match"? (This requires not only looking at the issue from your own perspective but also from others' perspectives and, more importantly, from the market's perspective. If not, you might fall into a trap: you think you're an 8, looking for a 9, which seems perfect. Others see you as a 4, suitable for a 5. But the market mostly has people rated 3-6, and encountering a 7 is extremely rare.)Third, what kind am I "suited" for? (Whether the thing is good or the person you find is beneficial is secondary. The most important thing is suitability, not just the hardware (height, wealth, job, appearance, etc.) but also the software (personality, hobbies, family atmosphere, parents' situation, etc.).What kind is suitable: First, have a clear self-awareness. Second, consider your parents' opinions and what your mature siblings say. Third, consider the opinions of friends (quality friends with mature lives) and what friends with mature life experience say."
datetime: "2026-04-26T06:14:23.000Z"
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author: "[浩浩荡荡地](https://longbridge.com/en/profiles/19784218.md)"
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# Whether you're a man or a woman, when looking for …