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description: "I saw my father&#39;s message on my phone tonight.He sent it yesterday afternoon, and I only just saw it.He asked me to check with the insurance company when I have time,about the insurance he bought for me a long time ago.I told you before, my father was very visionary and capable when he was young.Back then, in his twenties, he took unpaid leave from the Grain Bureau to run a hotel.Before I was even ten, my father spent money to buy insurance for me.In the 80s and 90s, where would an ordinary family have the money to buy insurance?Many people hadn&#39;t even heard of it, and even if they had, they wouldn&#39;t buy it.In the 90s, my father spent twenty or thirty thousand to buy insurance for me back then.He messaged me yesterday, asking me to check it out when I&#39;m free.He said in the message that I can receive money every month after I turn 50.Actually, as a child, I never had the idea of relying on my parents financially.My parents were very strict with me when I was in school.They never bought me luxury goods, and I never had much desire for those things myself.When I used to have meals with them, they would always remind me: you&#39;re an adult at 18, you need to be independent.So, in my sophomore year of university, I started looking for internships and jobs on my own.I would also work part-time during high school summer vacations to earn pocket money.I have very little relationship experience. I didn&#39;t even look for a boyfriend in university.I didn&#39;t really want to back then; I was always thinking about how to do well at work.And it seems I&#39;ve never really liked younger guys.I like those who are substantive, capable, and not flashy.They need to have good character and be kind.Back to my father, he&#39;s doing quite well now, he has a new family.My mother is also doing well now, and I&#39;m doing okay too.So I think it&#39;s all good.For the past few years, I really couldn&#39;t let it go and hadn&#39;t been in touch with him for a long time.Now I&#39;m gradually coming to terms with it.No matter what, at such a young age for me, in that era,he was able to buy me a form of security.That also shows he loved me, at least back then, and that&#39;s enough.Maybe I never experienced that kind of warm, affectionate fatherly love.Just like Iron Man, Tony Stark,he also always believed his father didn&#39;t love him.Until he traveled back to that time, he learned his father actually did love him.It&#39;s just that there are many ways to love, some light, some heavy.At that moment, he also let it go.@xiaozhaolucky"
datetime: "2026-06-26T20:43:15.000Z"
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# I saw my father&#39;s message on my phone tonight.…