--- type: "Topics" locale: "zh-HK" url: "https://longbridge.com/zh-HK/topics/39260456.md" description: "My mom told me to go find a relationship, maybe there's someone good out there.I said there definitely are good people, but in my current state, no one would have the capacity to handle me, and I don't think loving someone obligates you to manage their emotions.I've never believed that falling in love with someone or someone falling in love with me would bring me complete happiness, complete peace, or joy. Others aren't straws to clutch at, nor are they walls I can lean on forever. Even if someone, because they love me, makes me feel peaceful and happy, makes me feel loved, that's just a wall I lean on occasionally. Ultimately, the one I have to rely on is myself.This is why I don't seem so keen on marriage. It's not because there are no happy marriages around me. In fact, I think the older generation I see around me are in quite happy marriages. Even those who remarried, I think they live very happily.But I'm just this clear-headed, or perhaps this timid, or perhaps I feel I'm not strong enough yet.Whether it's physical health, inner peace and joy, even that feeling of being loved, even the sense of abundance and pleasure brought by material things. I believe these are things a person should first achieve for themselves.When that mood of mine comes again, I can't be crying and pulling at someone, asking them: What's the meaning of life? Why do I love life so much, yet I still feel deeply afraid of death from time to time?Normal people probably can't understand this deep love and deep fear I have for life. Or maybe normal people do have a fear of death, but they don't feel it so intensely, and they don't even want to think about it. Sometimes I'm an outlier. Maybe a relationship could make me feel happy and reduce those feelings. But even surrounded by love, I think I would still occasionally feel a deep-seated fear of death. One day, I'll be in tears asking the person I love this question. 🥹 Who could possibly handle that? My exes could handle it before. But I know it was hard for them, and eventually they'd get annoyed. So let me handle these emotions of mine first.Actually, regarding the topic of death anxiety, I don't need someone to comfort me or anything, nor is there anyone who can truly comfort another's fear of death. If there really were such a person, they'd definitely be my true love. I just like to discuss it. It's just that when I lose control of my emotions, I want to talk about my fears with the person I love. Alright, until I meet someone like that, I'll play with myself first.When my mood hits, I discuss the topic of death very calmly. Even though I might cry, my logic is clear, and I even want to gain new insights from others. Since no one around me is as 'crazy' as I am, and can't offer new insights, I'll just read books. In this world, there must be more 'crazy' people like me who both love life and fear death.I don't know why, even though I grew up in a relatively happy family, I don't look forward to marriage. 😅 I look forward to love, I like children. But I know reality differs from imagination, and it's possible I might never get the kind of love I want in this lifetime." datetime: "2026-03-13T20:38:59.000Z" locales: - [en](https://longbridge.com/en/topics/39260456.md) - [zh-CN](https://longbridge.com/zh-CN/topics/39260456.md) - [zh-HK](https://longbridge.com/zh-HK/topics/39260456.md) author: "[此时此刻-Wu135](https://longbridge.com/zh-HK/profiles/17265342.md)" --- > 支持的語言: [English](https://longbridge.com/en/topics/39260456.md) | [简体中文](https://longbridge.com/zh-CN/topics/39260456.md) # My mom told me to go find a relationship, maybe th… ## 評論 (1) - **此时此刻-Wu135 · 2026-03-13T20:50:40.000Z**: Am I asking for too much? Hahahahaha🤣 I really don't think anyone should be anyone else's lifeline. So I'll take care of myself first. I don't expect anyone to give me what I want. I also don't think that so-called love requires the other person to sacrifice. I don't demand anything, nor do I blind