<p>作者：昆廷·福特雷尔</p>
<p>‘我想他以为没人会注意到。这是一个礼品袋，看起来很贵。’</p>
<p>“酒和啤酒源源不断。如果少了一瓶，他们几乎不会在意。”（照片中的人物是模特。）</p>
<p>亲爱的昆廷，</p>
<p>我昨晚参加了邻里的圣诞派对。我每年都会去这个派对，通常是我们学校和大学时期的一小群人（最多 20 人，加上他们的孩子），还有一些来自艺术界（我们共同的职业）和邻里的朋友。女主人通常会准备丰盛的食物：蘸酱、新鲜面包、火腿和牛肉切片、圣诞树形状的薯片配鹰嘴豆泥和生番茄莎莎、肉馅饼、巧克力方块等等。酒和啤酒源源不断。如果少了一瓶，他们几乎不会在意。</p>
<p>她和丈夫及两个孩子住在一栋四层的大房子里。基本上，这个派对就像典型的华丽贺卡圣诞电影，许多衣着考究的客人四处游荡，但家具更贵，室内设计更好。通常在 12 月 23 日举行，所以在假日购物后非常不错。今年，我看到一个朋友的朋友，一个我在学校认识的人，在离开时顺走了一瓶酒。我想他以为没人会注意到。这是一个礼品袋，看起来很贵。节日的欢乐就这样没了。</p>
<p>我该告诉主人吗？</p>
<p>来宾</p>
<p>不要错过：‘我被诅咒了’：我的朋友取消了圣诞午餐——现在他希望我们分摊 50% 的餐厅押金。这公平吗？</p>
<p>您可以通过电子邮件将任何财务和道德问题发送给《金钱主义者》，邮箱是 qfottrell@marketwatch.com，</p>
<p>通过向《金钱主义者》发送您的问题或在《金钱主义者》Facebook 小组中发布您的困境，您同意匿名发布在 MarketWatch 上。《金钱主义者》遗憾无法单独回复问题。</p>
<p>人们在一年中的任何时候都会做奇怪的事情，但圣诞节对某些人来说可能是情感上艰难的时刻。</p>
<p>亲爱的来宾，</p>
<p>在成为偷走圣诞节的告密者之前，请三思而后行。</p>
<p>我称圣诞前夜的前一天为 “圣诞亚当”，我同意这是举办派对的好时机。人们仍然对假期充满期待，举办一个轻松的聚会是不错的选择，您知道（a）提前吃东西和（b）一瓶酒或几份奶酪会受到欢迎。此外，这是与老朋友重聚的完美时机。每个人通常都很高兴，善意满满。</p>
<p>人们在一年中的任何时候都会做奇怪的事情，但圣诞节对某些人来说可能是情感上艰难的时刻。即使他们并不孤单，这也可能让他们想起艰难的童年或那些不再在这里的人。派对上的客人可能会吃得过多、喝得过多、说得过多、待得过久或到得太晚（因为他们在到达之前喝得太多）。是的，他们可能会做一些非常愚蠢的事情，比如在离开时顺走一瓶酒。</p>
<p>这里有一些（不太可能的）解释：也许这个客人带来了那瓶酒，决定在离开时带走，因为他在回家的路上有个停留，或者第二天还有其他圣诞聚会；也许他带了两瓶，他本来就打算带一瓶回家，或者正如你所说，这瓶酒可能是别人带来的，在酒精引发的判断失误或纯粹的愚蠢时刻，他决定顺走它。</p>
<p>不要错过：‘你需要第三份工作或一个富有的丈夫’：我成为艾伦·斯坦福数十亿美元庞氏骗局的受害者并幸存下来</p>
<p>公众羞辱与私人轻蔑</p>
<p>对于这种行为的借口已经够多了；假设他偷了那瓶不属于他的酒，而你在上楼梯时正好撞见了他。现在你该怎么办？如果你告诉主人和其他客人发生了什么，涉嫌偷酒的人可能会遭受公众羞辱和/或私人轻蔑。主人可能不会一笑置之；她可能会感到被侵犯和受伤。</p>
<p>如果你想把这当作你这个假期的告别礼物，就告诉主人。但我不建议你这样做。如果你认为施以一些圣诞慈善更好，或者给这个客人一些怀疑的好处。我建议你把你看到的事情保留在你我和树顶的仙女之间。你可以继续过你的生活，不必被他人的欺诈所困扰，并希望在 2025 年的最后几天享受生活，而不被卷入 “失踪酒瓶事件”。</p>
<p>我猜那瓶酒的价格不超过 30 美元。如果这真的让你烦恼，为什么不把这个金额捐给你最喜欢的慈善机构，并为所有在炼狱中的灵魂点一支蜡烛，包括那些可怜的、可怜的灵魂，他们觉得有必要偷别人的酒——尤其是在经历了一些出色的款待之后？很可能，这家伙第二天早上醒来，看到厨房桌上的那瓶酒，心想：“我昨晚真的做了那件事吗？”</p>
<p>他可能对自己在酒后偷窃的行为感到比你更糟糕。</p>
<p>更多来自昆廷·福特雷尔的内容：</p>
<p>我想请我的家人和朋友为圣诞晚餐贡献 50 美元。这算不算不礼貌？</p>
<p>‘我剩下了一份价值 100 美元的 10 人份圣诞树蛋糕——却没有地方去’：我的朋友取消了圣诞晚餐。我应该结束这段 30 年的友谊吗？</p>
<p>我新岳父母送的这个改变人生的圣诞礼物是否太美好而不真实？</p>
<p>查看《金钱主义者》私人 Facebook 小组，我们在这里寻找生活中最棘手的财务问题的答案。读者们向我写来各种困境。发布您的问题，或对最新的《金钱主义者》专栏发表看法。</p>
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<p>-昆廷·福特雷尔</p>
<p>此内容由 MarketWatch 创建，MarketWatch 由道琼斯公司运营。MarketWatch 独立于道琼斯新闻社和《华尔街日报》出版。</p>
<p>（完）道琼斯新闻社</p>
<p>2025 年 12 月 25 日 10:47 ET</p>

WINE

<p>在一个圣诞派对上，一位客人目睹另一位客人在离开时拿走了一瓶酒。困境在于是否应该将这一事件告知主办方。建议考虑节日的情感背景以及告知主办方可能带来的后果，暗示保留这一事件为好</p>

<p>By Quentin Fottrell</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>作者：昆廷·福特雷尔</p>
</div><p>'I guess he thought no one would notice. It came in a gift bag, and it looked expensive.'</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>‘我想他以为没人会注意到。这是一个礼品袋，看起来很贵。’</p>
</div><p>&#34;There was an endless supply of wine and beer. If one went missing, they'd hardly miss it.&#34; (Photo subject is a model.)</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>“酒和啤酒源源不断。如果少了一瓶，他们几乎不会在意。”（照片中的人物是模特。）</p>
</div><p>Dear Quentin,</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>亲爱的昆廷，</p>
</div><p>I attended a Christmas party in my neighborhood last night. I go to this party every year, and it's usually a small group of people (20 maximum, plus their kids) from our school and college days, and some people from the arts (our shared profession) and the neighborhood. The hostess usually puts on a nice spread: dips, fresh bread, cuts of ham and beef, Christmas tree-shaped chips with hummus and salsa cruda, mince pies, chocolate squares, etc. There was an endless supply of wine and beer. If one went missing, they'd hardly miss it.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>我昨晚参加了邻里的圣诞派对。我每年都会去这个派对，通常是我们学校和大学时期的一小群人（最多 20 人，加上他们的孩子），还有一些来自艺术界（我们共同的职业）和邻里的朋友。女主人通常会准备丰盛的食物：蘸酱、新鲜面包、火腿和牛肉切片、圣诞树形状的薯片配鹰嘴豆泥和生番茄莎莎、肉馅饼、巧克力方块等等。酒和啤酒源源不断。如果少了一瓶，他们几乎不会在意。</p>
</div><p>She lives in a large four-story home with her husband and two children. Basically, the party is your typical glamorous Hallmark Christmas Movie of the Week, with lots of well-heeled guests milling around, but with more expensive furniture and better interior design. It's usually held on Dec. 23, so it's great after holiday shopping. This year, I saw a friend of a friend, someone I knew from school, snatching a bottle of wine on the way out the door. I guess he thought no one would notice. It came in a gift bag, and it looked expensive. So much for holiday cheer.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>她和丈夫及两个孩子住在一栋四层的大房子里。基本上，这个派对就像典型的华丽贺卡圣诞电影，许多衣着考究的客人四处游荡，但家具更贵，室内设计更好。通常在 12 月 23 日举行，所以在假日购物后非常不错。今年，我看到一个朋友的朋友，一个我在学校认识的人，在离开时顺走了一瓶酒。我想他以为没人会注意到。这是一个礼品袋，看起来很贵。节日的欢乐就这样没了。</p>
</div><p>Do I tell the host?</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>我该告诉主人吗？</p>
</div><p>The Guest</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>来宾</p>
</div><p>Don't miss: 'I'm cursed': My friend canceled Christmas lunch - now he expects us to split the 50% restaurant deposit. Is that fair?</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>不要错过：‘我被诅咒了’：我的朋友取消了圣诞午餐——现在他希望我们分摊 50% 的餐厅押金。这公平吗？</p>
</div><p>You can email The Moneyist with any financial and ethical questions at qfottrell@marketwatch.com,</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>您可以通过电子邮件将任何财务和道德问题发送给《金钱主义者》，邮箱是 qfottrell@marketwatch.com，</p>
</div><p>By emailing your questions to the Moneyist or posting your dilemmas on the Moneyist Facebook group, you agree to have them published anonymously on MarketWatch. The Moneyist regrets he cannot reply to questions individually.</p>
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</div><p>People do weird things at all times of the year, but Christmas can be a trying time emotionally for some people.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>人们在一年中的任何时候都会做奇怪的事情，但圣诞节对某些人来说可能是情感上艰难的时刻。</p>
</div><p>Dear Guest,</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>亲爱的来宾，</p>
</div><p>Think twice before becoming the snitch that stole Christmas.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>在成为偷走圣诞节的告密者之前，请三思而后行。</p>
</div><p>I call the day before Christmas Eve &#34;Christmas Adam,&#34; and I concur that it's a great evening to have a party. People are still hyped up for the holidays, and it's nice to have a low-impact affair where you know (a) to eat beforehand and (b) a bottle of wine or a few portions of cheese will be well received. Also, it's a perfect time of year to catch up with old friends from school and college. Everyone is usually in high spirits, and the goodwill is high.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>我称圣诞前夜的前一天为 “圣诞亚当”，我同意这是举办派对的好时机。人们仍然对假期充满期待，举办一个轻松的聚会是不错的选择，您知道（a）提前吃东西和（b）一瓶酒或几份奶酪会受到欢迎。此外，这是与老朋友重聚的完美时机。每个人通常都很高兴，善意满满。</p>
</div><p>People do weird things at all times of the year, but Christmas can be a trying time emotionally for some people. Even if they're not alone, it can remind them of a tough childhood or people who are no longer here. Party guests can eat too much, drink too much, say too much, stay too late or arrive too late (because they've been drinking too much prior to arrival). Yes, they can do some really stupid things, such as grabbing a bottle of wine on the way out the door.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>人们在一年中的任何时候都会做奇怪的事情，但圣诞节对某些人来说可能是情感上艰难的时刻。即使他们并不孤单，这也可能让他们想起艰难的童年或那些不再在这里的人。派对上的客人可能会吃得过多、喝得过多、说得过多、待得过久或到得太晚（因为他们在到达之前喝得太多）。是的，他们可能会做一些非常愚蠢的事情，比如在离开时顺走一瓶酒。</p>
</div><p>Here are some (implausible) explanations: Maybe this guest brought that bottle and decided to take it with him when he left because he had a pit stop to make on the way home, or another Christmas drinks the following day; perhaps he brought two bottles and he always meant to take one home or, as you suggest, this bottle could have been brought by someone else and, in a moment of alcohol-induced ill-judgment or just plain idiocy, he decided to snatch it.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>这里有一些（不太可能的）解释：也许这个客人带来了那瓶酒，决定在离开时带走，因为他在回家的路上有个停留，或者第二天还有其他圣诞聚会；也许他带了两瓶，他本来就打算带一瓶回家，或者正如你所说，这瓶酒可能是别人带来的，在酒精引发的判断失误或纯粹的愚蠢时刻，他决定顺走它。</p>
</div><p>Don't miss: 'You need a third job or a rich husband': I fell victim to Allen Stanford's multibillion-dollar Ponzi scheme and survived</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>不要错过：‘你需要第三份工作或一个富有的丈夫’：我成为艾伦·斯坦福数十亿美元庞氏骗局的受害者并幸存下来</p>
</div><p>Public humiliation and private scorn</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>公众羞辱与私人轻蔑</p>
</div><p>Enough stretching for excuses for such behavior; let's assume he stole the bottle, which did not belong to him, and he was caught in the act by your good self as you descended the stairs after powdering your nose. Now what should you do? The alleged bottle thief could suffer public humiliation and/or private scorn if you tell the host and other guests what happened. The host might not laugh it off; she could feel violated and hurt.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>对于这种行为的借口已经够多了；假设他偷了那瓶不属于他的酒，而你在上楼梯时正好撞见了他。现在你该怎么办？如果你告诉主人和其他客人发生了什么，涉嫌偷酒的人可能会遭受公众羞辱和/或私人轻蔑。主人可能不会一笑置之；她可能会感到被侵犯和受伤。</p>
</div><p>If you want this to be your parting gift this holiday season, tell the host. But I don't recommend you do so. If you believe it's better to exercise some Christmas charity and/or give this guest the benefit of the doubt. Something I do recommend, keep what you saw between you, me and the fairy on top of the tree. You can go on with your life free of other people's chicanery and hopefully enjoy the last days of 2025 without being caught up in a &#34;L'Affaire du Vin Manquant.&#34;</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>如果你想把这当作你这个假期的告别礼物，就告诉主人。但我不建议你这样做。如果你认为施以一些圣诞慈善更好，或者给这个客人一些怀疑的好处。我建议你把你看到的事情保留在你我和树顶的仙女之间。你可以继续过你的生活，不必被他人的欺诈所困扰，并希望在 2025 年的最后几天享受生活，而不被卷入 “失踪酒瓶事件”。</p>
</div><p>I'm guessing the wine didn't cost more than $30. If it really bothers you, why don't you contribute that amount to your favorite charity, and light a candle for all the souls in purgatory, including those poor, wretched souls who feel the need to pilfer other people's booze - especially after some sterling hospitality? Chances are, this guy will wake up the next morning and see the bottle of wine on his kitchen table and think, &#34;Did I really do that last night?&#34;</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>我猜那瓶酒的价格不超过 30 美元。如果这真的让你烦恼，为什么不把这个金额捐给你最喜欢的慈善机构，并为所有在炼狱中的灵魂点一支蜡烛，包括那些可怜的、可怜的灵魂，他们觉得有必要偷别人的酒——尤其是在经历了一些出色的款待之后？很可能，这家伙第二天早上醒来，看到厨房桌上的那瓶酒，心想：“我昨晚真的做了那件事吗？”</p>
</div><p>He probably feels more awful about his after-hours pilfering than you do.</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>他可能对自己在酒后偷窃的行为感到比你更糟糕。</p>
</div><p>More from Quentin Fottrell:</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>更多来自昆廷·福特雷尔的内容：</p>
</div><p>I want to ask my family and friends to contribute $50 toward Christmas dinner. Is that bad etiquette?</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>我想请我的家人和朋友为圣诞晚餐贡献 50 美元。这算不算不礼貌？</p>
</div><p>'I'm left with a $100 Bûche de Noël for 10 people - and no place to go': My friends canceled Christmas dinner. Should I end the 30-year friendship?</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>‘我剩下了一份价值 100 美元的 10 人份圣诞树蛋糕——却没有地方去’：我的朋友取消了圣诞晚餐。我应该结束这段 30 年的友谊吗？</p>
</div><p>Is this life-changing Christmas gift from my new in-laws too good to be true?</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>我新岳父母送的这个改变人生的圣诞礼物是否太美好而不真实？</p>
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</div><p>-Quentin Fottrell</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>-昆廷·福特雷尔</p>
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<div class="lb-trans"><p>（完）道琼斯新闻社</p>
</div><p>12-25-25 1047ET</p>
<div class="lb-trans"><p>2025 年 12 月 25 日 10:47 ET</p>
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‘节日的欢乐就这样没了’: 我看到一位客人在离开圣诞派对时拿走了一瓶酒。我需要告诉主人吗？